I’ll have to retire that joke.

I was thinking about writing a novel about roller derby using The Lord of the Flies for a structural model because I had made the half-joke more than once that the derby community is sometimes like an all female LotF. I decided to listen to the audio book and take copious notes to understand what made it tick. But it turns out that Lord of the Flies is far too simplistic to do justice to an organization as complex and powerful as a roller derby league. Maybe it’s because LotF is about a bunch of little boys stranded on a desert island and hoping daddy will save them whereas roller derby is an island of women who reach out to one another and give each other shelter in a sea that offers them no rescue. Either way, someone has decided to make a new LotF movie with an all female cast, since re-casting things with women is kindof a trend right now. That’s cool, I guess. A bunch of people are predictably mad about it, but so what? People can be mad about anything, and some things just aren’t worth the energy. It turns out, after re-experiencing the novel as an adult, I find the original to be … unoriginal? Look, I guess Golding was the first to do what he did, so it was original then, but the story isn’t actually that great. It’s annoying, honestly? Like, I am a grown ass lady, listening to 12-year-old boys argue their ego shit for pages upon pages while everyone is needlessly mean to the one boy with a goddamned brain, who also happens to be a clear stand-in for the women who are otherwise missing. Furthermore, Golding’s boys live in an ego/fear-based society. That is, their conflicts are primarily ego driven, and their decisions are rooted in fear. That kind of society is more or less what the majority of modern Western society is already doing, and it’s not working out so well for us. On the other hand, roller derby as a community is pretty different. It’s connection/overcoming-oriented. People don’t just play roller derby. They join a community and they overcome fears and other limitations to achieve something on both a personal and a communal level. Or maybe that’s just me. That’s more interesting to me than the old model of schoolboys on an island, so I guess it’s not an exact match. I’ll have to retire that joke.

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What I’m Reading: I Love Trouble, 1


OK, so I mostly picked it up for the cover design. You know you love that typeface and those colors.

I don’t know how to take a picture of paper quality, but I really like this paper and the art style.

The main character, Felicia, is someone I can at least relate to a little bit, what with being female and liking to drink on planes.

I’ll probably buy the second issue when I go to the comic shop again. It’s like $3. Why wouldn’t I?

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What I’m Reading: Ada by Gertrude Stein


by Gertrude Stein

Purchased at Third Eye Comics in Annapolis, MD.

I don’t want to ruin it by trying to tell you about it.

I think it’s about finding a way to love and be happy. The writing is hypnotic, and Stein’s sparse language points out just how much we don’t have to say. Every time a character says nothing, they say everything.


The artwork throughout is beautiful, but I want you to see that for yourself.


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Meditate Like a Boss eBook is on the Way!


Meditate Like a Boss, my blog series all about meditation, is becoming an eBook! Very soon, you’ll be able to purchase the book through Amazon.com for e-readers. Of course, the posts are still available on my blog for free if you want to read them here, but the eBook version is lovely, convenient, cheap, and includes all the posts plus links to the supplementary videos I made for you!

If you’ve heard about the wonders of meditation and thought, “That sounds nice, but I wish these weirdo hippy yoga people would quit with the nonsense,” this eBook is for you. I give you the simplest basics to start your meditation practice and address real-world issues like “What if I can’t sit up straight?” and “What if sitting still for meditation makes me feel anxious?” I also sift through the essentials of meditation (being present, observing the breath, relaxing the body), and explain some of the optional aspects of the practice (why we use mantras, malas, and so forth). 

Did you miss the series? Check out Part 1: Do What Now? (Note that the title is most effective when read like this.)

Once again, I’d like to thank Margie Markevicius (@MargieMark) for doing the formatting and cover design. She did a beautiful job, and I definitely recommend her to anyone looking for that kind of help.

I’m looking forward to sharing the final product with you guys!


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Anne Frank’s First Kiss

April flower

Today is the Anniversary of Anne Frank’s first kiss.

On April 15, 1944, her diary entry began, “There’s just one bad thing after another. When will it all end?” The day was full of bad news, fear, and the simple exhaustion of having lived in that little attic annex for nearly two years. But that night, she went to sit with her friend Peter to talk and enjoy the fresh air by an open window (they couldn’t leave it open during the day). He held her close for a long time and kissed her at last before she went to sleep. That kiss was the only thing she wrote about the next day.

She wrote:

Remember yesterday’s date, since it was a red-letter day for me. Isn’t it an important day for every girl when she gets her first kiss? Well then, it’s no less important to me.

Even in the midst of humanity’s darkest times, someone was falling in love. Two young people found companionship and support in one another. A kiss still made it a red-letter day. I think we owe it to Ms. Frank to remember that one time, she fell in love.


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