Content Update: Good Girls, Bad Girls and Intimate Self Reflection


Things are getting ready to change here at It’ll start small, and I don’t know where it’ll lead, but this is your heads up warning.

Just shy of a year ago, I participated in a Bodysex workshop with Betty Dodson and Carlin Ross. You can read all about my experience with that right here. Recently, Betty and Carlin have announced a Bodysex Certification program to train women to run the workshops all over the world. My interest was piqued immediately, of course, but I haven’t decided if the certification is right for me. As you’ve come to expect, I’m beginning down this uncertain path the same way I begin everything else in my life: I’m gonna blog about it.

Since the workshop, my life has continued to change in subtle and profound ways, and I’m not entirely capable of explaining it all just yet. There is no doubt in my mind that the experience I had in Betty’s apartment helped me learn to accept myself, increase the joy in my life, and vastly improve my communication with my husband. I’ve always considered myself a sex-positive feminist, but over the past year, I’ve been able to let go a lot of the negativity I’d been carrying around from my Catholic education and small-town upbringing. I’ve been feeling a pull to write more about sex, self-acceptance, body positivity, and yes masturbation and orgasms. These are all tricky subjects for me to talk about in public because I do feel like they’re still taboos, and talking about them makes me feel really vulnerable.

On the other hand, I think our cultural conditioning teaches women not to talk about sex and to feel shame about it, which is bullshit. I believe that if we continue to be prim and proper in a society that says only bad girls like sex, then we’re just contributing to the root of rape culture. In reality, there’s no such thing as a bad girl and our sexuality is an integral and beautiful part of being human. That being the case, I definitely want to incorporate the principles Betty teaches into my work more. That may come in the form of Bodysex Workshops (hey, Annapolis, are you ready for that?) or … who knows what else?

Right now, I don’t feel even remotely ready to run a workshop the way Betty and Carlin do. And if I were running workshops, I’m not sure I would want to do it precisely the same way they do. Granted, I wasn’t ready to teach yoga when I started my teacher training, either, but I figured it out along the way. These are all things I have to consider, and I’m hoping writing about it here will help me figure out where I’m heading. Don’t worry, this isn’t turning into a porn blog, but I’m ready to take a little bit more of a risk in what I write here, so I hope you’re down for the adventure.

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