Sit Still and Be Here Now

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Lately, a lot of folks have asked me for help starting their meditation practices. Meditation may seem strange or confusing if you’ve never tried it before, but it’s really the simplest thing in the world. In fact, it may be that simplicity that makes it so hard for us to grasp. “Wait … you mean, I’m supposed to just … sit there?” Yeah. And the moment you do, your mind starts chattering away, at which point most people get distracted and quit.

Below is a simple guided meditation I’ve recorded that you can stream here or download. Pro tip: I suggest downloading so you don’t have to be online to use it. That way you can hide in the bathroom at work to meditate on particularly stressful days … not that I know anything about that.

This practice is only about six and a half minutes long, which is just enough to get a taste of that nice quiet sensation meditation creates. Many people say they don’t meditate because they don’t have enough time, but I call shenanigans on that! You don’t have to sit for 30 minutes every time, especially if you’re new to it. Just try a few minutes every day at first. As you begin to feel the benefits of meditating, you may find that it’s easier or at least more of a priority to find time for it during your day.

If you enjoy this practice and want to learn more, check out Meditate Like a Boss, my guide to developing your personal meditation practice.


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Write Against the Machine: Don’t worry, we’re from the internet!

So, Ellie and I decided to experiment with a podcast this week. I happen to think that we’re really funny together, so I hope you’ll enjoy listening to us solve the world’s problems.

In this first installment, we talk about being from the internet, making friends online, that funny space between being internet friends and real life friends, and the role of technology in modern life and relationships.

I just keep listening to it because I love this conversation. When Ellie and I talk, we have the conversations I wish I could have with everyone. For example …

On why it’s easy to make friends on the internet:

You get to present your best self and be as witty as you want as many times as you can hit backspace. ~Ellie

On being yourself online:

Ellie: Never apologize for being weird because it’s always gonna be weirder when you apologize than it was before. And don’t use the internet when you’re drunk. It’s like a car. Just don’t do that. Something bad will happen.

Mary: That’s so hard to do now, I mean, either because you’re always drunk or you’re always on the internet.

On growing up:

We all feel like we’re caught in whatever teenage phase was our favorite, and we’re just being temporarily inconvenienced by having a job or a spouse or children. ~Ellie

On youth in the media:

When you’re a kid, you don’t realize that the ideal that’s being given to you is already you. Then when you grow up, you’re like “Fuck, I had no idea how good I had it.” ~Mary

On changing your life:

Oh, that bothers you? Well you should stop that. ~Ellie

Ugh, we had such a great time. I hope you’ll enjoy it.

I do have to apologize for how bad I sound. I have a nice mic and everything, but I’m still figuring out how to use it without sounding like I’m trapped in a tin can. Apparently, I sit too close to it, so I’ll fix that next time. 🙂

We’re not sure how long the podcast deal will last, since we’re just experimenting. If you like it and want it to continue, let us know!

Mwah! Enjoy!

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