Weekly Assignment: Tell the Truth

Truth or Consequences

Sometimes I wonder what would happen if I only ever told the truth. I used to have a theory that if I only told the truth, I would get better at detecting lies. I thought I could learn to recognize sincerity like an old friend, and when there was no sincerity in a person’s voice, face, or demeanor, then I would know they were lying. It hasn’t been quite that simple, but I think I was on to something.

I can usually tell when people are being false with me in a general sense. I can tell when people are talking trash about others just to feel better about themselves, but that’s generally because that’s the only reason anyone talks trash. When you’re really trying to help someone, it sounds friendly, not gossipy.

This week, tell the truth as much as possible. Be honest about what you see, feel, think, and experience. The truth will not always be nice, so you’ll have to decide whether what you have to say is helpful or appropriate. While it may be challenging at first, I think you’ll find that honesty significantly improves your relationships and frees up your energy.

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7 thoughts on “Weekly Assignment: Tell the Truth

  1. When I’m high on weed I feel like my mind automatically deconstructs everything I perceive to it’s simplest, binary form. Whenever someone says something, it’s like I immediately strip away any pretense from it to determine whether it’s an attempt to get into someone’s pants, an attempt to deflect insecurity through criticism or self-deprecation, whatever. It’s like the truth of their state of being just shines through their message, whether or not the message is a sincere attempt at communicating that truth.

    1. That’s an interesting observation. I’m not sure that being high or otherwise intoxicated is a really reliable state for determining whether others are being truthful because there’s always the possibility that your mind is clouded by your own perceptions and you simply believe those perceptions to be true because they seem very real to you while under the influence. I’m not saying you’re wrong, but I do think the same type of perception can be cultivated within sobriety, and I suspect that perception in general is more reliable when you’re not stoned. In other words, I think it’s inadvisable to rely on weed as your social barometer.

      1. Okay, first off I want to say that there is some merit always to questioning whether any form of intoxication is having the actual effect you perceive it to be having while you are intoxicated.

        That said, it really annoys me when — and I’m not saying you are going this, just that your response felt awfully close, enough to elicit this kind of response from me — people immediately dismiss observations made by people who are high simply because they are high. Sure, there is plenty of evidence that being high slows reaction times, along with other physical and psychological affects — but you know what, that doesn’t necessarily make what a person observes less true. If the ways in which being high or intoxicated benefit a person outweigh the ways in which a person suffers negative symptoms, it’s entirely possible that person’s experiences are as they claim them to be. Consider: a person who is uptight while sober, despite all the evidence that being drunk detrimentally affects your coordination, could actually dance better while buzzed if the benefit of being that relaxed outweighs the degree to which he or she is impaired. With weed, the same thing that makes some people paranoid — call it a compulsive consideration of circumstance and consequence — could make other people much more perceptive. In the same way that everyone’s chemistry is different, I think it’s silly to expect that everyone reacts precisely the same way to all drugs. I’m not saying everyone who thinks he or she is capable of heightened performance in any manner while intoxicated actually is, but I think it’s just plain ignorant, and even rude to dismiss it automatically.

        And again, I’m not saying that’s what you did. I just want to put that out there. I think that I am probably equally capable of such perception while sober, but — and here’s the point — there are probably other reasons that, when it comes right down to it, I’m not that perceptive. Maybe when I’m not high, I spend more time thinking about what I want to say and talking, instead of actively listening. Maybe when I’m not high, I am more concerned with myself in ways that make understanding what is going on with others around me more difficult. In any number of ways my attitude towards others, my methods of interacting with my surroundings, etc. can be affected when my brain chemistry is altered, and I think it’s silly to assume there are no benefits that can come out of such altered states.

        And again, for the last time, I’m not saying you’re saying that. But I guess I felt that you were questioning my observation, despite it being something I have experienced on multiple occasions, and given a great deal of consideration both while high, and afterwards in discussions with both friends and mental health professionals.

  2. LOL dude. Take a deep breath. This is whyI refuse to get worked up over typos. It happens all the damn time, and the truth is, no one cares that much. I understand about observations you make when high — sometimes they are more perceptive than things you think about when you’re sober, and sometimes they are just a flight of fancy. I think it’s important to balance the two and do a reality check now and then. I would advise against making any major life choices while intoxicated, for example, but maybe write down whatever you’re thinking and check again while sober to see if it holds true. The point of this particular post is to find *truth,* and real honest to goodness truth will be true no matter what state of mind you’re in.

  3. “The point of this particular post is to find *truth,* and real honest to goodness truth will be true no matter what state of mind you’re in.”


    And the point of my original comment was simply that I have found it extremely easy to find truth in dealing with people when high. I guess, to put it in role-playing terms, when I’m high, I get a bonus to my Sense Motive skill check, perhaps at the expense of something else, like Diplomacy (because I tend to be more blunt) or Knowledge: History (because I have a harder time remembering things). = P

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